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Several years ago, our Proverbs 31 team all took the test in Strengths Finders 2.0 to identify each individual’s primary strengths. One of mine was “input.” The shortest way to describe this strength is “a geek-ish love of research and information.”
It’s really true about me. Not only am I a bookworm and resource junkie, I love to share these pieces of information with others. People around me– friends, family, pastor, teammates, etc–are probably sick of receiving links via email…so this week I thought I’d give them a break and inflict…I mean invest…my super-power on you. Here are some resources I highly recommend:
For finding your ministry niche:
- Strengths Finders 2.0 Understanding your own strengths is key to finding your sweet spot. The book comes with a code in the back to do the test online. You get individualized feedback that’s invaluable. (I can testify that the test completely pegged me!)
- Find Your Niche An easy-to-read article with 3 insightful steps to finding your niche.
For getting the word out:
- Wildfire Marketing Although Rob Eager’s tips are targeted to authors, I learn lots of great marketing ideas for speakers as well.
- Jeff Goins’ podcasts Jeff is doing some dynamite interviews with folks like Seth Godin and Guy Kawasaki. These marketing gurus also have a generous heart toward sharing their expertise. Love that.
From great trainers:
For improving your delivery:
- Book Yourself Solid While I don’t agree with every point on this blog, he’s got some great things to say. Start with this post.
For overcoming nerves:
- Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk about how your body language shapes your self-image. I get totally totally geeked out on TED Talks, and this is one of my favorites. Fascinating stuff.
These should keep you busy for a while! I’d love to hear which ones you like and any other resources you find helpful. I invite YOUR “input”!
A friend pointed out that I didn’t provide the links in yesterday’s post to access Michaela’s terrific info on endings, so here they are!
We provide the same content in both places, so simply choose the one you like the best.
“The end of THE END is the best place to begin THE END, because if you read THE END from the beginning of the beginning of THE END to the end of the end of THE END, you will arrive at the end.” ~Lemony Snicket
As hard as it is to read that quote, it’s not nearly as hard as writing a great ending to a message. Or at least that’s how I feel!
I love starting with a personal story, compelling the audience to connect through felt need, teaching through God’s truth and coming up with a transformational challenge. It’s when I have to wrap it all up that I begin to falter. Just this morning I was preparing for an event this weekend by reading over a message. All was well with just a few tweaks here and there until I got to the end.
This message isn’t just any message. It’s my testimony message, “The Untying of the Straight-Laced Girl”. It’s the story of my heart’s transformation and the power of Jesus in my life. So it shouldn’t have a weak, wishy-washy ending, should it? I want something that stirs women’s hearts and draws them to the Captor of my soul.
How do we construct great endings for our messages? I’m still learning, but here are some things I’ll focus on as I write a stronger one for “The Untying of a Straight-Laced Girl”.
- End with hope–So much of our messages center around giving our audience the “how to”, but we have to leave them with “want to”. How will their life improve if they walk out the truths you’ve presented? We need to end with inspiration so our audiences walk out inspired, full of hope and ready to make a change. Painting a picture–showing instead of telling–through story is often a great way to end.
- End with a crafted sentence– A couple of years ago at She Speaks Intensive, our participants were videoed doing a three minute message at the end of the conference. It was a stressful situation for everyone, and toward the end of our preparation time, the freak out started. (I could completely understand!) I found some very profound words coming out of my mouth, “You need to CRAFT and MEMORIZE three sentences: your opening sentence, your sticky statement and your closing sentence. Everything else can be fairly fluid.” As these words flowed out of my mouth, I thought, “Great advice, Amy. Why don’t you try it?!” Now I do! I carefully work on and memorize a strong hook for the beginning and a memorable sentence for the end. It has helped tremendously to be able to start and end with confidence.
- End with emotion and inflection– Years ago, I was talking with my friend Rachel who teaches communications at a university. She shared that her classes analyze TED Talks to find what makes a great speech. They found effective endings create spontaneous applause. What a great insight! I know from experience that lots of my endings created a puzzled pause instead of spontaneous applause. There was an obvious, “Is she finished?” in my audiences eyes. I’m learning to really FEEL my end, to let that through in my voice and to use inflection to indicate the ending. If you’re not sure about how to do this, experiment a little yourself and start listening to great endings.
Michaela, the wonder-intern, has included lots of great additional information about endings on our Facebook and Twitter pages. We’d love for you to join us there!
A couple of weeks ago, I traveled to Indiana where I was part of a wonderful event. The team truly had servant’s hearts, and I found I just couldn’t out-work them. It’s truly my heart’s desire to serve at each speaking opportunity, but occasionally event planners assign ME as a job. I’ll have one person who has been assigned the arduous task of taking care of me from airport pickup to drop off.
(Note: If you are planning an event, this is the absolute biggest gift you can give to your speaker. It’s such a luxury, but I LOVE it when I have one contact who can direct me, answer any questions, help me with last minute emergencies, etc. I don’t ever want to be a diva, but that one person increases my feeling of “comfortableness” exponentially!)
Event planners always pick the warmest, friendliest, most hospitable women for this job. Lisa, my liason for the Indiana event, was no exception. She made my visit memorable and comfortable. As we drove, we chatted about our families, ministry and girly topics of every sort. At one point she asked me a great question, “How does it feel to spend time with people you don’t know? Do you feel uncomfortable?”
I thought for a moment before I replied, “I don’t feel uncomfortable at all. It’s funny how God works and knits people together by His Spirit before we even meet. I feel like I have sisters everywhere I go.”
I’ve been doing lots of practical posts, but today I want to focus on one of the spiritual blessings of being a speaker. God will give you sisters wherever you go–women who love Jesus, serve other women, and love you whole-heartedly too.
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13: 34-35
I see this verse in action at each event I take part in, and it’s an incomparable blessing! What blessings do you receive as you speak?
I’m not sure when it happened, but at some point I stepped into my calling as a speaker. My insecurities and tendency to compare myself negatively to others didn’t completely disappear; however, they lessened dramatically as my confidence grew.
I still deal with a few jitters as I stand to speak, but they don’t own me any more. I stand confident that God in me is bigger than my nervousness.
There are some simple steps for speakers to take to step out of insecurity and into confidence.
1. Depend wholly on God and His able-ness. As my friend Lisa Whittle says, “As modern day speakers and communicators, it is in recognizing where the power for the message comes from that we are able to stay pure of heart, having only holy confidence in our Lord rather than in our own abilities.”
2. Pray even more than you prepare. It’s in this time with God that correct perspective is gained and fresh messages are born in our hearts. When we enter an event with the full knowledge of ourselves as a handmaiden to our glorious God, having prioritized becoming a learner and praying for our audience, then confidence is the undeniable result.
3. Prepare too. Several years ago in a conversation with my brother, who is now a pastor, I was complaining about my inability to think fast on my feet. “I wish I could follow the Spirit more while I’m speaking,” I whined. His response was wise and instructive. “The Spirit can speak to you when you’re sitting at your desk preparing just as well as when you’re on a stage.”
Preparing for me means hours in prayer and Bible study before I start writing followed by more hours in front of a computer typing words and sentences that I hope communicate God’s message well.
Another way to prepare and build confidence is through training.
Last week I had another encounter with someone you’d never EVER imagine lacking confidence. She has lots of experience in front of people, and she’s esteemed in her field. Even with all the amazing-ness she has going on, this woman said she felt like throwing up last summer when it was her turn to speak to our group…
Last summer I got to meet Mandisa–who is lovely inside and out not to mention a vocal powerhouse–at She Speaks. This weekend, I went as a mega-fan to her concert in Durham, NC, and I got to talk to her for just a few minutes before the concert.
Here’s my point … every single one of us struggles with insecurity, but there are concrete steps to take toward confidence. A strong and authentic spiritual life is critical, but preparing and training have their place too.
Have you been praying about coming to She Speaks this summer? There’s still a spot for you, and I’d love to meet you in person!
“Walk with the wise and become wise….” (Prov. 13:20a)
This verse has been truly instructional for my life, and I’ve been changed as I live by it. Since I shared about coaching last week, I wanted to share some wisdom this week from some women who have been mentors of mine in the last 9 years, the Proverbs 31 Speaker Team. I asked our speaker team and the Online Bible Study Team to share their best piece of advice with you, and these are some of the responses:
“Never underestimate how the preparation for His presence proceeds the miracles of God.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve showed up at an event and felt like God wasn’t even there because there was no preparing for Him to be there. Sometimes its because I didn’t spend enough time in worship and prayer for the event. When its all about the details it can be very easy for it not to be about the anointing of God.” ~Nicki Koziarz
“The moment I say “yes” to an event, I connect with the event coordinator, and we pray together for the event. I then ask her to send me the names of the women who register for the event. As the names come in, they send them to me, and I begin praying for each woman by name. God uses this prayer time it to create a powerful connection with the women. When I arrive, they are not strangers. They are names etched in my heart…names I would sometimes linger over as I prayed. Meeting them is precious. My heart is already tender to them as I step onto the stage. I open each event telling them they have been prayed for by name. It creates something intangible between us…a supernatural connection via the Holy Spirit!” ~Wendy Blight
When I first felt called to speak, I was excited about speaking but wasn’t exactly sure what I was supposed to speak about. As a result, I came up with topics that I thought would be of interest to many women, and created a message around it, even if I wasn’t an ‘expert’ or fully knowledgeable in that subject area, then would back them up with appropriate scripture references, and sprinkle in a few personal stories. But over time, I realized God called me to speak about specific topics based on the experiences He had brought me through, or times in my life when I had personally seen Him at work or experienced His intervention and guidance, and not just any random subject in the Bible. I have learned that when we can share God’s truths based on our own experiences and wisdom, and not just Bible knowledge, hearts can really be moved. So my advice would be to steer away from speaking about random subjects that you feel would be well received or popular, and instead, pray about what God has specifically and uniquely equipped you to talk about and stick to topics where your passion for the subject matter will be evident to all who listen to your message. ~Tracie Miles
Place a person in the audience mentally as you prepare. No matter whether your message is humorous or poignant or teaching or mentoring, see that person — their needs, their heart, their feelings — as you write, as you pack, as you take care of details, as you pray, and even as you step onto the stage. This takes the focus off of the details, off of you, and on to the woman waiting to hear what God wants to speak into her heart. ~Suzie Eller
I love how each piece of advice is unique and reflects the heart and passion of each woman who gave it. I hope this is useful wisdom for you!
As your women’s ministry plans for fall events, would you keep the Proverbs 31 Speaker Team, each of these women (and me!) in mind as you prayerfully consider speakers? We’d love to serve your women and get to meet you in person!
I apologize for the funky spacing on yesterday’s post. If you got frustrated and gave up reading, click here to view the corrected version. Thanks for grace, friends!
I have 2 primary joys as I coach Next Step clients. One is meeting new friends, getting to hear their heart-beat and reading/hearing their messages. The other is equally sweet, and it’s working with old friends over and over.
Today I’d like to introduce my client and friend Charlotte Angles. Charlotte was one of my first clients way back when. She has contracted for several services, and we’ve just finished working together again. Charlotte wanted a “second brain” and accountability as she developed a new retreat, so we customized a service for her.
When we were done, I asked her some questions, and I’d like to share the interview with you today!
1. Why did you first decide to sign up for coaching services with Next Step Speaker Services?
I attended She Speaks and received a ton of great information at the conference! However, it was so much that I wasn’t quite sure where to start or what to do next. I quickly became overwhelmed and felt instantly behind…on everything. Next Step Speaker Services is a great name for what you do because you helped me design the next steps I needed to take to make my ministry more accessible. You helped me organize all that great information into attainable goals.
2. What is the most valuable thing you’ve gained from working with a speaking coach?
A dear friend who understands the heart of teacher. You understand the burden I have to handle the Word of God with carefulness and accuracy—and how this can sometimes paralyze a me into watching a cursor blink for hours on end. Before spending time with you, I thought this experience might be an indication that I wasn’t really cut out for speaking ministry. You helped normalize these feelings and many other speaker anxieties I had thought were just exclusive to me.
3. You’ve signed up for multiple services, and I’ve loved getting to know you so well! What made you come back?
Every time I get off the phone with you, I think to myself. Ok, yes, I can do this. You help me think through ideas—especially when I may be stuck on a particular point in a message. Recently, I’ve discovered the invaluable benefit of having scheduled accountability sessions for message preparation. Knowing I had a weekly appointment with you made me set aside necessary time to study and write my messages. A week before my last speaking engagement I felt ready and relaxed. No last minute writing or cramming. It was wonderful!
4. I got a sad email from a woman who hired a different speaking coach and said, “It was a waste of money.” Hiring a coach isn’t the least expensive say to go; it’s true. Since you’ve bought several services, I’m assuming you feel Next Step has been worth the investment. What makes you feel that way?
I trust you to tell me the truth—but in a way that doesn’t require me to run for a tourniquet. ha ha! You have my back and will you be honest with me when something I’m doing or saying might distract from the heart of my message. At the very least, you help protect me from making a fool of myself! But more importantly, you help me develop messages that clearly point to Jesus.
5. What has been your favorite part of working together?
You are an encourager. We laugh together. I always feel like a better version of the woman God created me to be when I get off the phone with you.
Thank you, Charlotte! Even coaches need encouragement and affirmation, so this interview blessed me beyond measure.
If you’re interested in speaker coaching or just curious about how it works, we can schedule a free consultation call. Just read the information on the Request Information page and fill out the form. I’ll be back in touch quickly to schedule our time.
After last week’s rant, I thought I’d send you something uplifting today.
Has God called you to speak? Then invest your time in speaking. I know you can do it! I’m standing behind you cheering you on as you run toward the goals God has placed in your heart!!